When I first wrote Destinee I hadn't really thought of the origin of the name, I just thought it was a cute name back then, but thinking about it years later- the storyline and the direction of her life and events really does tie into the word destiny.
Courtesy of Google
noun: destiny; plural noun: destinies
the events that will necessarily happen to a particular person or thing in the future.
"she was unable to control her own destiny"
the hidden power believed to control what will happen in the future; fate.
"he believes in destiny"
Courtesy of Thinkbabynames.com
Meaning and name origin
Destinee \d(e)-sti-nee, des-tinee\ as a girl's name is of Old French origin, and the meaning of Destinee is "one's certain fortune, fate". Destinee is a variant of Destiny (Old French); mythology: the Greek deity of fate.
Hi everyone, sorry been a way for a little bit. Each day I try to come up with something new and exciting for people to read. I am happy to say that I am about 3 weeks away from the release of Two become One-A Destinee sequel, but in the time being, I thought some quotes from the first book would be fun.
A Love Worth Waiting For has a HEA rating.
"I was dressed by the time I heard Brad’s car pulling up. “Hey, Babe.” He said “You look nice” and he planted a big kiss on my lips. I liked him, but the kiss didn’t send tingles down my spine, the way I would have liked, and I felt guilty every time I went out with him knowing my heart belonged to another....."
“Seems both sexes say they want something real, but so many out here want to play mind games too.”
"I knew I was weird, and he called me out for the entire world to see. I wish I was different, like other women, who could throw caution to the wind and date without the thought of consequences."
What your mama didn't tell you. Is a working title.
Hi all. I’ve been a busy bee of late. I am working on my 3rd book (working title above), and it’s not a romance novel. When my grandmother was living, I used to talk to her about everything but most importantly my marital status, while my family and friends were getting married I remained single. As time went on and I continued to stay single year after year, I told my grandmother that I felt it was my calling to “educate” young women about men and relationships (may seem ironic because at the time I wasn’t in a relationship, but it allowed me to observe many different relationships while I waited to be in one). I don’t profess to be an expert, just someone who has observed the world around me-my own experiences and life experiences from friends, family and acquaintances.
I think my being single for as long as I was also helped me to have a testimony so when I eventually married, I could tell women, you don’t have to accept any ole body just to have a man. A lot of women get tied up with men who don’t mean them any good. My book will discuss things about life, love, marriage, sex that I don’t believe many young women are learning in their homes and a lot of times it’s because their mothers or women around them are still learning themselves. All of us have to travel our own roads, but many women can save themselves some heartache if they know certain things from the beginning.
That is why I believe it is imperative that mother’s AND father’s lead by example, but I put emphasis on women because I am a woman, and can’t speak for men, though I plan to have a section in my book about men. I think a lot of young women willingly walk into situations that could have been avoided. I also know that young people don’t like to listen to older people, not that I am old, I’m 45- so again that’s why I say, and will say over and over again it’s best for parents to lead by example giving their children a solid base early on. I didn’t have a solid base, I grew up in a single mother run home, and I knew early on that was not an option for me.
My words tend to be preventative, I have found that most advice comes after a kid or two, or after a woman has become jaded.
Destinee Romance novella “It’s like a clean version of 50 shades of Grey.” I’ve had at least 2 readers tell me that. I don’t know if that is a good thing or a bad thing. Perhaps a good thing because FSOG has sold very well and has become a household name. It was always my intention to read FSOG and I probably will, but I’ve been so busy with work and writing my own stories, I don’t have the leisure time anymore to read like I used to. Back in the day (early/mid 80’s into the early 90’s) I was a 2 novel a week junkie, reading was my life; this of course was before the days of the internet and cable TV as we know it.
When I first wrote Destinee some 15 years ago, it was originally geared towards Christian young women (hence the reason it is “clean”), but truthfully as I have mentioned before, any woman who is a romantic at heart will likely love the story of Destinee and Edward. He’s rich and handsome, and she is shy and unsure of herself when it comes to him; but it is a sweet story about how they work at coming together in spite of their differences. The story is told without sex getting in the way of them discovering each other. And don’t we all love sexual tension in stories?
Now please don’t get me wrong in regards to a good romance novel with gratuitous sex, because when I was an avid reader, I wanted the juicier the better. I wanted to read about the hero taking the heroine and having his way with her, with her consent of course and what red blooded woman doesn’t want to read about that? Deep down inside I think most women, likes a take charge alpha male especially a man who is rich and powerful, you add good looks to that and he only has eyes for you, that is orgasmic on its own. Based on what I know about FSOG, a rich and powerful man and a woman who is completely under his spell is the only similarity that I am aware of.
Interview with Destinee Jones-Johnson
By Christine Thomas
Abstaining from sex till marriage is it worth it?
It’s your girl Christine, of Christine’s Corner. I thought the topic of abstinence, or maintaining virginity till marriage would be a good topic for Valentine’s Day and beyond. Valentine’s Day is usually a day and night for unbridled passion and the promise of a romantic dinner, skimpy lingerie and good sex. Valentine’s Day has passed but it didn’t stop me from getting in touch with my good friend Destinee. She is the best person to talk to about abstaining till marriage and actually walked the walk. Not an easy one according to her. I’ve known her for years and I know she is an inspiration for some young women who want to know her experience for waiting and whether or not it is worth it?
CT-Hi Destinee, how are you girl? You’re looking great. I see Mister is keeping you happy.
DJ-I’m fine Christine. Thank you and yes he is.
CT-When I interviewed that fine husband of yours I thought he was very charming.
CT-When we were in college you were the only one of us who never really had a boyfriend. And you weren’t having sex like the rest of us. College is usually the place where people experiment and I was no exception. I’m going to tell you. I thought you were weird and missing out. Please tell my readers, why maintaining your virginity was so important to you?
DJ-You thought I was weird? You never told me that before.
CT-I did. But I also admired your stand. Temptation is too great out here. It was too many fine brotha’s on campus. I don’t know how you did it.
DJ-Part of it was upbringing and religious convictions-I know that’s not politically correct. Once I got older and was able to make decisions for myself it was what I wanted to do. I always felt sex was something special that shouldn’t be given away to just anyone. No judgment. That was my choice for my life.
CT-I’m glad you mention no judgment because people usually feel some kind of way when they encounter a woman who chooses to abstain. Why do you think that is?
DJ-Just guessing, it could be because they wish they had waited. Perhaps the first man they gave themselves to; proved to not be worthy. Men view you as a novelty and like the thrill of the hunt and to see if they can persuade you. At the end of the day men and women view sex differently and women are often the ones who feel out of sorts if they didn’t get from a man what they expected after giving their bodies to them.
CT-What about women who enjoy sex and don’t put archaic limitations on themselves when it comes to sex?
DJ-Just like my choice to abstain was my own, women who don’t like archaic limitations have a right to live how they see fit. My choice to abstain only became a problem when certain people started questioning me about it and they felt some kind of way about my choice. You know who I’m talking about. I only talked about it when I was confronted about it.
CT-Did the questions about abstaining bother you back then?
DJ-Only when I was ridiculed for my choice; other than that, no.
CT-So that brings me to a very personal question. Your husband is the only man you’ve slept with. How can you know if he is good or not? Do you regret not playing the field a bit?
~~Destinee laughs here~~
DJ-Yes he is and I am very satisfied in more ways than one with his performance. No complaints on either side. I don’t regret not playing the field. You remember #####? She was very free and vocal about her conquests but when she met ######## she quickly forgot about the body count she used to not only brag about, but she used to rub it in my face that I wasn’t getting any. So I don’t see the point of playing the field, only to want to forget about your conquests once your knight and shining armor shows up.
CT-It’s safe to say your husband wasn’t a virgin, correct?
DJ-No he wasn’t
CT-Do you think your choice to remain one till marriage was his motivation for pursuing you?
DJ-I guess you’d have to ask him, but I don’t think so.
CT-I’d love to ask you some even more personal questions but I know you shared some in Two Become One. Two snaps girl, you didn’t hold back.
DJ-Well enquiring minds wanted to know some things
CT-My final question. At the end of the day; was waiting for sex worth it?
DJ-Yes. It was a long journey. I wanted to throw in the towel many times, but I’m glad I made the personal choice to wait.
CT-Thank you Destinee. I wish you and your husband the best and many more years to come.
Anything you’d like to share with my readers?
DJ-Just make sure when you are having sex it’s with someone who really loves you, respects you and because you want to. I preferred sex within marriage, but that was my choice. Thank you for inviting me.
My motivation for writing A Love Worth Waiting For
By Lisa Marbly-Warir
My motivation for writing A Love Worth Waiting For (original title Destinee Romance Novella); I’ve touched on this before in other articles. There is a local Christian store in my area that has a few copies of my book and one of the owners of the store suggested I post a YouTube video talking about what motivated me to write A Love Worth Waiting For. (I have some YT videos out, but not one that speaks to why I wrote the book) At the time I wrote A Love Worth Waiting For, which was around 2001, I was a single Christian woman. Around that time the book No more sheets By Juanita Bynum was out. I remember reading it, and thinking it wasn’t for me. The reason being, I wasn’t sexually active (TMI)and I wondered where were the books for Christian women who hadn’t gone down the path where they didn’t need No more sheets?
And the idea came to mind, to write a story (not about myself) but a story that I and perhaps other young women in the same situation could relate to. I wanted to write a story about a young woman who was waiting for a husband before she gave that part of herself away and of course the challenges she faced because of her choice.
Most women back then and especially now, are not waiting and men certainly are not waiting. Which is fine for them; but it presents a challenge for a woman who solely has to wait on God for a husband. However, at the end of the day A Love Worth Waiting For is a romance story, she’s still a red blooded woman who wants sex, but at what cost? Does she even give in to desire and temptation? Or does she wait until she walks down the aisle? It’s a fast read, most people telling me “I couldn’t put it down once I started reading” I was also prompted by some of my readers, to do a follow up a sequel, which I did. It’s called Two become one: A Destinee romance sequel. Both books are available on Amazon. E book and paperback.
I think it’s admirable for any woman in this day and age who can deny herself until a man who is worthy of her comes along. I also know it is hard. For a woman who wants to maintain virginity till marriage, who is celibate, who is abstaining waiting on God is crucial and probably your only means of support to get through this time. For women and men who are growing up in a good church the idea of waiting is probably easier because they have been taught since youth, and they are likely the ones who marry young anyway, so they aren’t faced with years of the choice to wait.
Edit~~ I want to note, I am aware of the recent mockeries made of abstinence (Bristol Palin) sexual purity (The Duggars) and maintaining virginity (Clay Aiken). My words aren’t meant for everyone, I realize that most people today are not waiting, and please understand that is fine if that is your choice. I also know that my words are and will be inspirational for women who want them to be.
I also have other books I that I am working on; hopefully due out by or before the end of the year. I will go more into detail in another article.
Interview with Attorney Edward Johnson
With Christine Thomas
The Rosedale Daily
CT-Hi, I’m here today with Attorney Edward Johnson. He is a very busy man and has graciously agreed to do this interview as a favor for his wife Destinee. She and I go way back, we went to college together. I went into journalism. She went into business administration. We’ve kept in touch over the years and it is an honor to interview her husband.
CT-How are you today, Mr. Johnson?
CT-Thank you for agreeing to do this
CT-What is your full name?
EJ-Edward James Johnson Jr.
CT-What type of law do you practice?
EJ-I’m a general practice lawyer
CT-Did you always want to be a lawyer?
CT-What would you tell any young man out here about how to be successful?
EJ-Stay in school, finish college, work hard, envision your life goals and work towards them
CT-What is your idea of perfect happiness?
EJ-Home life, wife and kids, having a job that I love
CT-Which living person do you most admire? And why?
EJ-My dad; many fathers are not in the home; he was always there, and I am thankful for that. He showed me what a man and father is supposed to be.
CT-What is your most marked characteristic?
EJ-I think it’s my voice, but most people tell me it’s my eyes
CT-What is your greatest regret?
EJ-Don’t know that I have any regrets per se. Maybe not giving Destinee that ring sooner
CT-What is your greatest fear?
EJ-Not being able to take care of my family
CT-What was the best thing that ever happened to you?
EJ-Marrying my wife
CT-What was it about her?
EJ-She had a subtle confidence about herself. She was sweet, but not a push over.
CT-Do you believe in God?
CT-What’s the first thing people think about you before they know you?
EJ-That I’m stern, maybe a little arrogant
CT-Are you arrogant?
>>He chuckles here<< Not at all
CT-What’s your most embarrassing moment?
EJ-I was about 18 and asked a girl I liked to go out with me, and she told me no in front of her friends.
CT-What do you wear to bed?
CT-But I’m asking you.
EJ-The way God intended. Buck naked
CT-What did you think when you first saw Destinee?
EJ-I thought she was quiet.
CT-You knew Destinee about 7 years before you two got together? What took so long?
EJ-Believe it or not, I was a little intimidated by her. She wasn’t too easy to read.
CT-It was nice talking to you. Thank you for your time.
Destinee romance novella (Book 1)
Two become one: A Destinee Romance sequel (Book 2)
Born Out of Lust (Book 3)-coming soon
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Their mother loved gem stones and always referred to her daughters as her little gems. Their parents stressed education and failure not being an option if they wanted to succeed in life. Each sister is successful, married to equally successful men. Her sister Amethyst is a nurse and her sister Garnet is a doctor, who briefly gave up her career to rear her now grown daughters and son. Jewel completed her Bachelor’s degree while working in retail. After graduation it took a few months of sending out resumes before she landed two interviews for two major corporations. She was offered both jobs within days of each other, but picked the one that was closest to her eventual goal, unknown to her at the time. She didn’t know what business venture she would strive for. It was her plan to work for a major company building her bank account and go from there.
She is one of four black women who work at KMA Corporation. Because it was only a few of them, they hit it off instantly. There was moral support in numbers. The company is a multi-million dollar cosmetics company. She didn’t know it at the time that it would be her ticket out of the rat race. She was observing how things were done in a major corporation, so when her time came she would already be ahead of the game.