My motivation for writing A Love Worth Waiting For
By Lisa Marbly-Warir
My motivation for writing A Love Worth Waiting For (original title Destinee Romance Novella); I’ve touched on this before in other articles. There is a local Christian store in my area that has a few copies of my book and one of the owners of the store suggested I post a YouTube video talking about what motivated me to write A Love Worth Waiting For. (I have some YT videos out, but not one that speaks to why I wrote the book) At the time I wrote A Love Worth Waiting For, which was around 2001, I was a single Christian woman. Around that time the book No more sheets By Juanita Bynum was out. I remember reading it, and thinking it wasn’t for me. The reason being, I wasn’t sexually active (TMI)and I wondered where were the books for Christian women who hadn’t gone down the path where they didn’t need No more sheets?
And the idea came to mind, to write a story (not about myself) but a story that I and perhaps other young women in the same situation could relate to. I wanted to write a story about a young woman who was waiting for a husband before she gave that part of herself away and of course the challenges she faced because of her choice.
Most women back then and especially now, are not waiting and men certainly are not waiting. Which is fine for them; but it presents a challenge for a woman who solely has to wait on God for a husband. However, at the end of the day A Love Worth Waiting For is a romance story, she’s still a red blooded woman who wants sex, but at what cost? Does she even give in to desire and temptation? Or does she wait until she walks down the aisle? It’s a fast read, most people telling me “I couldn’t put it down once I started reading” I was also prompted by some of my readers, to do a follow up a sequel, which I did. It’s called Two become one: A Destinee romance sequel. Both books are available on Amazon. E book and paperback.
I think it’s admirable for any woman in this day and age who can deny herself until a man who is worthy of her comes along. I also know it is hard. For a woman who wants to maintain virginity till marriage, who is celibate, who is abstaining waiting on God is crucial and probably your only means of support to get through this time. For women and men who are growing up in a good church the idea of waiting is probably easier because they have been taught since youth, and they are likely the ones who marry young anyway, so they aren’t faced with years of the choice to wait.
Edit~~ I want to note, I am aware of the recent mockeries made of abstinence (Bristol Palin) sexual purity (The Duggars) and maintaining virginity (Clay Aiken). My words aren’t meant for everyone, I realize that most people today are not waiting, and please understand that is fine if that is your choice. I also know that my words are and will be inspirational for women who want them to be.
I also have other books I that I am working on; hopefully due out by or before the end of the year. I will go more into detail in another article.