Have you ever been the other woman and didn’t know it?
As straight-laced and savvy as I am-or thought I was when I was dealing with my ex-fiancé. (And I use fiancé loosely) I had fallen victim of being the “other woman” It wasn’t until years later (by no admission on his end) that I found out that he had gotten married to someone else while we were in a relationship. He did tell me at one point that his woman always knew about me. (By then he and I had broken up) The funny thing is when we were dating I knew something wasn’t right. I had more questions than I had answers, and there was absolutely no peace in my heart dealing with him, none. There were also red-flags that I promptly ignored. I used to ask him-Is there someone else? To which he always replied, no, or he would go into his quiet space. He was extremely quiet and secretive, which is also a red-flag in a relationship. Apparently he gave me a satisfactory enough answer for me to continue on in abject misery with him-although, I tried to break it off with him a few times, but his declarations of love made me give him one more chance-until it was no longer a viable solution to our farce of a relationship. It was truly a dark time in my life-and one of the reasons I know that we as women will ignore warning signs.
Don’t let loneliness, desperation, hopes of turning the wrong man into your king make you cling to a man who is emotionally poisoning you. It ain’t worth it for your health, self-esteem or peace-of-mind.
The bright-side of dealing with a toxic-relationship is to use it as a learning experience and not allow it to happen again, and be on your guard so that you know the signs next time. What that horrible relationship did for me was-it prepared me for the right one, the real deal and the appreciation of a good man.
A love worth waiting for-Destinee’s Story book 1
Two Become One book 2
Born out of Lust book 3
Jewel-Entrepreneur, Fabulous and…Single
Sisters can we talk?
Under the Irish Moon coming November 2016
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