I must admit to not knowing a lot about #KierraSheard other than the fact that she is the daughter of #KarenClark—part of the famed #ClarkSisters gospel group. Kierra recently drew criticisms from a statement that she made.
She stated that she would rather put her female friend's up in a hotel instead of allowing them to stay in her home with her new husband. Years ago, mothers or older women of the church would have cautioned young wives, new wives, or wives in general not to have your friends in your house all the time with your husband. I want to make it clear, women in the church. We tend to be a different culture, or at least used to be. The church world and the world has blended so successfully (and not in a good way) that you can't tell the difference any longer. But that is another topic for another day.
When I first got married I got the same warning from my mother. "Don't let your friend's in your house all of the time."
Kierra's comments opened the door to ridicule and cackles from women who I'm guessing are not married. When you're not married you don't have a husband to lose so a comment about not having your friends around your husband all the time may seem crazy to you or you may even call the wife insecure. You can trust your husband and your friends. But sometimes familiarity can lead to boundaries being crossed.
Many a wife...or husband found out the hard way by being too trusting of human nature. You can have all the trust in the world until as mentioned above—boundaries are crossed. A lunch date here, friendly nightly calls there, etc. I've often said, cheating doesn't always start out in the bedroom.
Rumor: A popular TV chef, I won't name, lost her husband to cancer years ago.
Her good friend would send her husband over to her house to comfort said TV chef. Well that good friend ended up losing her husband to the grieving widow. I'm pretty sure the friend didn't think her best friend and husband would stab her in the back. We've become such a pro other woman, mistress, side chick, creepin', society that people don't understand a wife taking a proactive stance to keep her marriage and family intact. Ironically enough, when a wife is careless about her marriage she is blamed and judged. When a wife makes a statement like Kierra's she is still judged.
A rebuttal may be if a person is a cheater he/she will find a way to cheat. And that is 100% true. But inviting it into your home increases the possibility for cheating. Cheating is often opportunistic. Another thing you may find is, not all of your friend's are happy for your marriage. Which can also increase the chance of impropriety.
Well what about the husbands? People always let these trifling, a$$ men off the hook. Haven't we all heard that one? By no means am I letting men off the hook. But as a friend of mine said years ago- 'Sometimes as the wife you have to protect your husband'.
In closing, I found nothing wrong with what Kierra said. In today's society I can see how outlandish her comments may seem to some. But today's world is also anti-marriage, pro-divorce and pro-messy, unnecessary relationship drama. So I don't expect the masses to truly understand a wife being dedicated to her marriage.
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