I wasn’t going to comment on this and as you can tell I’m a few days late voicing my opinion. So, I figured why not add one more opinion to the fray. Let me admit first, that I am not a fan of Kanye’s, never have been and likely never will be—please note this has nothing to do with his choice of women or even his wife. (and before I get into my thoughts, his wife is non-Black and his children are multi-racial, so why would we expect anything different of him?)
That said, why do some of us (Black women) get bent out of shape over some Black men’s choices for non-Black women? Especially men that the majority of us say we do not want—is that a fair assessment?
Ok, some may say it’s the principle of the matter—I guess I get that too, to an extent—meaning, I feel that Black men are the only race of men who publicly puts down his own women (and I have an opinion for that too, but that is another article for another time)
I feel some Black women making a big deal out of this is not only magnifying the situation, but it’s also giving him (Kanye) a bigger head and may even drive more money (sales) into his pockets by the very segment of the population that he excluded.
There are so many directions this post can go in, but I will try to keep in context to the current event. I’m about to give my age away—back in the 70s there were barely any positive representations of girls/women who looked like me. So, I will say we’ve come a long way baby and have many more years to go-in regards to more Afro-centric Black women being seen in a positive light, as beautiful and desirable etc. without a stigma being attached to it. I will say it's much better today than it was when I was growing up.
Viola Davis, Tika Sumpter and even Tariji P. Henson would not have their gem roles with us rooting for them, probably even 15 years ago, so yes we’ve come a long way, but have miles to go.
Going even a step further, way back before my time with movies of the 40s for example—the Black male lead was much darker skinned and his love interest was often a Lena Horne type. The whole lighter Black woman/multi-racial women for love interest, modeling etc. is absolutely not new. This is why I try to support TV shows etc. that use darker skinned women in a positive light. Sometimes we have to stop looking for others to do right by us and do it ourselves.
So, I wouldn’t expect anything less of Kanye or any man who is like him. As I posted on Facebook a few days ago-we need to concentrate and give our energies to men who do support, value and respect us.
And at the end of the day people have their preferences. I do, you do, everybody does (for the most part) so, when some Black women spazzed out over Kanye and his choice, I cringed.
We as Black women and consumers can simply not buy products of Kanye, or any other person who doesn’t value us, by not valuing us; they shouldn’t value our money either. I am in no way saying boycott. I’m just saying; exercise your right to spend your money elsewhere. Even with my message I’ve given him a platform. That’s how it is when controversy around stars happen. Those are my thoughts.