…That night, I went to a club; it really wasn’t my scene, I was older, and had been there done that, and many of the patrons were years younger than me. Even though I didn’t look my age, I felt my age and I felt out of place. I got up to leave. I wasn’t anxious to go back to the hotel so I took off my shoes and decided to walk along the beach. It was dusk, maybe a little dangerous, but there were plenty of people around to feel relatively safe. As I walked I heard a vaguely familiar voice. Low and deep and it sent a ripple up my spine and a tingle to my nether regions. “Great minds think alike.” I turned around. It was Trent. “Mr. Trent Roberts; wow, what are you doing here?” I asked. “Same thing as you-vacationing,” he said. “I saw you in the club. I was on the other side of the bar. I tried to get your attention, then I looked away for one second and you were gone.” he said. “Oh, sorry, I was in my own world,” I said. “I could tell,” he laughed. “Have you ever been here before?” I asked. “No, first time. Beautiful huh?” he asked. “Yes, it is. It’s my second time here and hopefully won’t be my last,” I said. We continued to walk and talk. We hadn’t seen each other in a few years and I was surprised he still remembered me. I certainly remembered him. He was very handsome, almost disturbingly-tall, well built, with golden brown skin, though it was darkened by the recent constant sun exposure in St. Thomas. He had dark eyes with heavy eyelashes, definitely too pretty to be on a man and a cleft in his chin that couldn’t be ignored. We found out little tidbits about each other that night. He was thirty three, never married and had no children…. Be sure to get your copy today and find out what happens next between Jewel and Trent. 4.99 https://www.amazon.com/Jewel-Entrepreneur-Fabulous-Single-Novella-ebook/dp/B014G1DLRM/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1471465413&sr=1-5&keywords=lisa+marbly+warir#nav-subnav #readers #books #romance #urbanreads
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Timothy Dalton as Edward Rochester-is the best Jane Eyre adaption in my opinion. Favorite Mr. Rochester (actor) By Lisa Marbly-Warir 8/15/2016 Hello readers and fans of Jane Eyre, I’m pretty sure this subject has been done to death, but for any novel or movie we as fans like, we don’t mind discussing aspects of it for the umpteenth time. Anyone who has stumbled across blogs of mine should know by now that Jane Eyre is my all-time favorite novel. I don’t even think I can articulate why this book resonated with me. I read it for the first time as a teenager, on my own accord. Then I had to read it again (happily) in high school. I read it again in my 20s and even listened to it on audio-and may even read it again one last time. Do I seem obsessed? Maybe, but it’s been at least 20+ years since I’ve last read it, so I’m about due to read it again. We all know the story of Jane, orphaned and left to fend for herself against a hateful aunt, and odious cousins who made her life hell, then being sent off to that awful boarding school where further emotional abuse took place-and finally landing the governess job at Thornfield Hall with Edward Rochester. He was a tortured soul-but he and Jane were somehow kindred spirits, each other’s equals. He wasn’t used to a woman, especially an unattractive one taking him to task. So that leads me to the reason of this post-who was your favorite Edward Rochester? I’m going to be honest and petty; I have never liked any of the actors chosen to play Mr. Rochester. I used to wonder, if the people who cast the movie(s) took the time to even read his description- His figure was enveloped in a riding cloak, fur collared and steel clasped; its details were not apparent, but I traced the general points of middle height and considerable breadth of chest. He had a dark face, with stern features and a heavy brow; his eyes and gathered eyebrows looked ireful and thwarted just now; he was past youth, but had not reached middle-age; perhaps he might be thirty-five. I felt no fear of him, and but little shyness. Had he been a handsome, heroic-looking young gentleman, I should not have dared to stand thus questioning him against his will, and offering my services unasked. I had hardly ever seen a handsome youth; never in my life spoken to one. Quote from Jane Eyre courtesy of www.publicbookshelf.com Were they emotionally invested in this book the way I was? I ask because, though by the description he was not a handsome man, but as Jane fell in love with him, he became handsome in her eyes and you the reader couldn’t wait to read what their interaction would be next. I remember many years ago, talking to a fellow reader at work and there was a PBS adaption of Jane Eyre and we were both in agreement that the actor used (in my coworkers words-“he was so ugly” I won’t say which actor because that’s not nice. But to answer the question I pose to you all, if I had to pick and I do this grudgingly, it would have to be Timothy Dalton. That adaption of Jane Eyre was the best in my opinion. What say you? These are the actors who have played ER over the years (I’m sure there are more) Michael Fassbender Toby Stephens Orson Welles Ciaran Hinds William Hurt George C. Scott Rafe Spall Timothy Dalton Every last actor except for Timothy gets a heck no. Now, you might ask, so then Lisa who then would YOU pick to play Mr. Rochester? Gerard Butler did a great job in the Phantom of the Opera or it would probably have to be an unknown; he would have to have thick black or at least dark hair and dark brooding, expressive eyes and a heavy brow. Please note, this is just my opinion, I don’t lose sleep over this, I just thought this would be a fun question to pose. #JaneEyre #readers #booklovers Be sure to check out my Goodreads author page https://www.goodreads.com/search?q=lisa+marbly+warir Black women and marriage
Lisa Marbly-Warir 8/9/2016 Hey everyone. This is a beaten to death topic on many Black social media sites, but it’s a topic that can’t be ignored. As much as I try, believe me, lol. I see how marriage and the benefits of marriage can help our community. I just recently published a book Sisters, Can We Talk? that has been on my mind to do for many years. Long before my grandmother passed-she’s been gone for 6 years; I used to tell her that one day I was going to write a book about singleness and marriage, preferably wanting marriage. Back then, the negativity about marriage wasn’t so prevalent. I think the negativity about marriage is more so online where you have a great number of like-minded women who can feed off of each other-but IRL women are more likely to admit to wanting marriage. I grew up in a time where young ladies sat around and talked about their future wedding plans, and what our groom/husband would look like etc or what we hoped he would look like. I would say somewhere in the past 15 or so years those days has turned into-marriage is not important, wives are desperate, pathetic, weak creatures, marriage only benefits men etc. But somehow having children with a man who refuses to marry you or step up to the plate is somehow acceptable, and the scary thing is, it’s become so commonplace that marriage does indeed seem like a foreign concept to many. Somewhere however, many young Black ladies are getting the message that marriage is not beneficial for women and that all men cheat, and so why bother with marriage? Now I would like to say that-for women who genuinely don’t want marriage based on their own personal reasons, I’m not talking to those women. I more or less talk to women who I know want marriage. I think there are a few things going on that has made the idea of marriage go down a slippery slope, hopefully not to the point of no return. I don’t believe the desire for marriage will ever go away for most women, but we have to face the fact that more and more women are settling for shacking up, or having children with men they are not married to, and then moving on to the next man. That is not conducive to a strong community, nor is it conducive to a healthy, stable household in a lot of cases. I believe marriage is no longer seen as important to some women, because many have made choices that lead them away from marriage, and then many are dealing with men who in particular may have been raised in a single mother run home, so they never saw their mother loved and cherished by their father. This is a vicious cycle that keeps manifesting itself as more and more people are coming together to procreate, but not see the importance of making their union legal and spiritually i.e. before God, family and friends. I made a list which I put in my book about “Are you a placeholder in your boyfriend’s life?” I posted a link to that chapter found here http://lisamarbly-warirauthorpage.weebly.com/my-blog/signs-you-may-be-a-placeholder-in-your-boyfriends-life Another thing I think is going on is many women are trying to make a relationship with the wrong man work, and by default assumes marriage is broken, not reliable nor beneficial for her. It’s not marriage, often times it’s people dealing with the wrong person. I’ve often said that when you meet a man and he tells you he doesn’t want to get married, believe him, what he really means is he doesn’t want to marry you. But guess what? Women will forge ahead in that relationship anyway, get her feelings tied up in him, or get pregnant and wonder about why he left, or why he won’t man up and marry her. Some women will even say-after the baby, or after I got pregnant he just switched up. No he didn’t, you weren’t listening to what he told you, or you weren’t paying attention to his actions-however, as I mentioned, many women did listen to his words, or knew his actions weren’t lining up and went ahead anyway. At the end of the day, marriage is not broken, but what is broken are two imperfect people trying to come together. You just have to make sure you are with the right person, make sure you listen to the words men say as well as their actions. Men do tell us what they are about most times, we as women don’t always listen. I love a wedding, I love seeing two people in love come together-but at the end of the day, those two people need to know that marriage does indeed take work, there is a daily compromise, there are true benefits to marriage providing you are with the right person. Hopefully the link above will be helpful for some women who are wondering about why their boyfriend is not moving forward. Be sure to check out my books https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_1_11?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=lisa+marbly-warir&sprefix=lisa+marbly%2Caps%2C159 Please note-the first book in my Destinee series-A love worth waiting for-Destinee’s story the ebook is .99. So check it out. Follow me Twitter @Lwarir https://www.facebook.com/LisaMarblyWarirauthorpage/?view_public_for=925912120754403 What was your favorite childhood book(s)? Hello readers, I know many of us don’t get to read like we used to. For some avid readers, you may remember the very first book you ever read or was read to you. Even though I used to go through 2-3 books a week years ago, I can’t pinpoint the first story I fell in love with. But, I can tell you the stories that fascinated me as a girl. From my earliest memory-Bible stories were read to my brothers and I as children. Each one of us had our own children’s bible. Jonah and the Whale Sampson and Delilah Daniel in the Lion’s Den (was my brother Daniel’s favorite, if I remember correctly) J Etc. Charlotte’s Web-was read to me in the 2nd grade, I still can remember sitting in front of the reader taking the whole story in. I joked when I got older that Charlotte is the ONLY spider I’ve ever liked. The Golden Books-Didn’t we all love those? Are they still around? Where the Wild Things Are-Maurice Sendak-I remember this from Kindergarten. It scared me and fascinated me at the same time. Little Monsters Bedtime book-Mercer Mayer The Tale of Peter Rabbit-Beatrice Potter-my brothers and I loved this story and even had a rabbit and named him Peter. Snow White and Rose Red-Wilhelm and Jacob Grimm Hansel and Gretel-Brother’s Grimm So now, it’s your turn. What were your favorite children’s stories? Christine's Corner-The Rosedale Daily Christine Thomas interviews Attorney Edward Johnson Jr. and Mr. Trent Roberts for Black Men in America. Hello readers, I recently sat down with Attorney Edward Johnson Jr. and Mr. Trent Roberts. Two men who don’t know each other, but share a common experience-being Black males in America. I chose a central location Downtown Detroit, for us to sit down and discuss this very troubling trend that is plaguing our nation-Black citizens dying at the hands of the police. Interview transcribed by Moxie J. Allen Christine- Gentlemen, thank you for sitting with me. Edward/ Trent- You’re welcome (in unison) Christine-These are very dark days indeed for our country. The phenomenon of police brutality is not new to the history of America. What is new however, are the cameras in which people are able to get front row seats to fellow Americans being-to put it bluntly-murdered, by so called professionals who are trained to diffuse situations, but are taking lives instead. And more recently the police are now being targeted and marked for death. Scary times. Some of you are already familiar with Attorney Johnson from his radio and TV ads, but you may not know-he also volunteers his time and money to causes concerning high risk young Black males in less fortunate communities. So, Mr. Johnson-your thoughts on this current situation. Edward-I am deeply troubled by this. Christine- Edward, we’ve been friends for a while and you know, I love you and your wife, but you’re aware of the label you are getting of being a “new Black” because of recent comments you made about accountability and being responsible about choices. Edward- I somehow knew those words would come back to haunt me. Being a lawyer I see both sides of the argument all the time. We often have the police’s side of the story and the alleged perpetrators side. You know the saying-there are 2 sides to every story and somewhere in the middle is the truth. Christine-Edward, do you think that there are times you are far removed from what happens in the Black community when it comes to the police and people of color? You grew up rich, you went to Ivy League schools and you are close friends with the police. Edward-I am a Black man first. Just because I have a Master’s degree, drive an expensive car; it does not make me exempt from being profiled by the police. For me to be driving my car for example, I’m either a drug dealer, or an athlete. With that said, there is still protocol when dealing with the police. Christine-Ok Edward. I’m going to stop you right there. By protocol, I’m assuming you mean be compliant and cooperate with the police? Edward-Yes. Christine-What about the victims who complied with the police and were still killed? Edward-Very tragic and unfortunate-I am aware that we have trigger-happy police. There needs to be more training and race/culture awareness for the police. I am presently working with my dad and a host of other professional Black males. We are doing our due diligence to get and keep police officers who are known to use excessive force, or are known racists off the beat and more importantly out of communities that are largely people of color. I am also mentoring young Black men and leading them towards law enforcement. I try to get to them before the gangs, or a life that is not conductive for positive growth. Christine-That’s a start. And we appreciate you. I would like to tell my audience that you and men like you have been instrumental in sending 50 young Black men to college over the past 5 years. Edward- Thank you. We have to care about each other and ourselves for any change to start. And change has to start within our communities first. Christine-I believe change has to start with not allowing racist or scared police to police areas where they are not comfortable. Edward- No arguments there. Christine- Thank you so much Edward. We might not always see eye-to-eye, but we respect each other to be able to agree to disagree on certain topics. Now, Mr. Roberts, you have been sitting there so patiently. How are you today? Trent- Fine, thank you for inviting me. Christine-Of course, and you are welcome. Tell me your thoughts on the situation out here. Trent-As Mr. Johnson said, this is very troubling. And if it wasn’t for my mother and my own will to do better, I could easily have been a statistic myself. By that I mean, in prison, perhaps run-ins with the police or worse killed by the police or even by someone that looks like me. Christine-You too mentor young Black men. Trent-I do. Christine-What is the biggest challenge for Black males out here? I’m directing the question to both of you. Edward-Lack of jobs, failing educational system, feelings of hopelessness-Christine, we’ve talked before and I mentioned that I had a loving father, he was tough-as-nails on me and he didn’t play when it came to education and keeping me on the straight-and-narrow, but a lot of Black men don’t have the father-figure in their lives that they desperately need. Trent-I would also like to add, gang affiliations, many of the young men I mentor are drawn to these gangs because it gives them a sense-of-belonging. Peer pressure is also to blame, because a lot of our men are scared to stand out from their friends and be different. Christine-I would like to thank you gentlemen for spending your time with me to discuss this very important matter. This situation that we are dealing with is not going to change overnight, but we are fortunate to have men like Attorney Johnson and Mr. Roberts who are doing their part in Detroit and surrounding areas to help make changes for a few young men at a time. And both of you encourage these young men to pay-it-forward-which is great. Thank you again, fellas. Christine Thomas The Rosedale Daily [email protected] **Please note-this is fiction-any similarities to real people is a coincidence**
Characters from the above books #blacklivesmatter, #blackmen, #blackmeninamerica Greenleaf and the Church By Lisa Marbly-Warir 7/12/2016 Ok, so we are about 6 episodes into this new series-Greenleaf. I like the show; it’s pretty predictable so far. For example, the first 2 episodes in, I got the DL vibe of Kevin. Stopping right there-I do wonder how prevalent being DL is in the church. I predict Grace and Noah will end up in a relationship. (Is it me or does he need to wash his face? I don’t like that facial hair on him) then there was that one scandalous scene of Jacob and Alexa. I was like no they didn’t. But has that ever happened in the church? Probably, although the thought never occurred to me until I saw that scene. Jacob is fine by the way. I remember as a girl hearing adult’s talking in hushed tones about, Brother so and so, or sister so and so. For example, there was a scandal about one of the deacons (I believe) at a church I went to as a girl. He would sneak into his job at night to watch porn. Yes pearls were clutched to the heavens back then. It seems like no big deal today in this everything goes world now, but back then in the early-mid 80’s that was an embarrassing scandal. People have the misconception that Christians are perfect. And yes as Christian’s we are to strive to be perfect, however, when we fall short it is our responsibility to ask God for forgiveness, repent and move on and not do whatever it is again. The problem is there are some Christians who are unapologetically sinful, they know they are doing wrong and don’t care, or think that because they are saved, they don’t have to ask for forgiveness and repent. Being a Christian is a perpetual journey. I can’t speak for anyone else, but when I fall short of what God expects of me, I sure ask for forgiveness and try not to repeat the mistake(s) Now, let’s get to the real reason I’m writing this. The church-this show is exposing what many of us knew all along of what goes on in church and with church folk. I know some people who are not Christians, will use human weaknesses as a reason as to why they don’t go to church and get up on a high horse and judge and laugh and point and say I knew Christian’s or church goers weren’t perfect. For me it’s a cop-out when people use the excuse of Christians not being perfect to not go to church. I like to stop those people right there. You go to church for your own salvation and to fellowship with other Christians, regardless of where they are in their walk with Christ. For many people who use the excuse “That’s why I don’t go to church…” just say you don’t go to church because you don’t want to go to church. A true Christian knows the weaknesses of humans, but still go to church for their own salvation and because God instructs us to fellowship with one another. There is a difference, however, between Christians and church-goers, for the most part. Also, church is not a home for perfect people. It is a place for forgiveness, redemption, healing etc etc etc. The unfortunate fact is, people are people, some people have a close enough walk with God to where they can forsake certain sins (no one is sinless by the way) People are the ones that rank sins from bad to worse-sin is sin to God. It will be interesting to see how this show pans out. Will there be a moral to the story? Will the creator(s) of the show, show the characters turning from their human weaknesses and sin and asking God for forgiveness? It’s hard to say at this point, I am often leery of Hollywood’s perception of Christians and Christian people; it is usually viewed through a very narrow-minded, superficial understanding of what a true Christian is. All in all, it is entertainment, and for people who want to be and are Christians, this show won’t deter them, but for people who are teetering on the fence, this show may dissuade them, but it’s a good chance they weren’t going to be a Christian anyway. My rating for this show out of 5 stars I give it 4. 9/6/2017~~Update~~ We are in season 2 and the show is still fabulous with many twists and turns. Check it out. www.shimmergirlbooks.com Follow on Twitter @Lwarir Like Destinee A Romance-Novella on Facebook #Greenleaf #OWN #theBlackchurch Does having low-esteem make you settle?
By Lisa Marbly-Warir 6/27/2016 I went to a co-worker a few weeks ago for some questions for my blog and this was one of them. She is ok with me using her initials V. Wesley and posting the questions (there are more to come) I will also post her response to the question. My response is yes-and the reason for low self-esteem and settling is infinite. Hopefully settling once on the wrong man and learning from that experience will help you to grow for the future and not make the same mistake over and over again. Unfortunately there are a lot of women who pick the same kinds of men over again hoping for different results-when most times it is something internal that makes some women go for the same men and not self-analyze. There was a time in my life where I allowed the wrong man to run game on me. The reasons I stuck it out was-out of fear of not finding the one, fear of being alone (even though up till that point I was alone (by choice) because I didn’t want to be messed over and I was alone even after he and I called it quits. I didn’t do a repeat- being burned and hurt-once was enough. So I just waited on God for the man He had for me. I often told myself after my ex and I were finished, that he came into my life to a) teach me a lesson and b) be appreciative of the good man that would ultimately come into my life. (Which he did) Waiting on God is not an option for a lot of women, maybe even most women. But I would tell women when dealing with a man, that voice in your head that’s telling you to run, or he isn’t the one-listen to it. Because what could happen and happens a lot is, you get caught up, perhaps pregnant, or whatever and lose him anyway and it’s worse because now there is a child. Not that a child is not a blessing, but sometimes children come into less than ideal situations that weren’t built on solid foundations. I wrote an article last year about Are you placeholder in your boyfriend’s life. This ties into low-self-esteem and what some women will allow or put up with because they’re scared to let the wrong man go. Some men will also take advantage of a desperate/vulnerable woman. So yes, having low self-esteem will make you settle, however, it doesn’t have to be your life’s story, it can be turned around-knowing that you are worth something, love yourself and not allow every man in creation to be on your body because you are scared to be alone for however long it takes not to be sucked into a relationship with a man who isn’t for you or doesn’t plan to be for you. Too many of us have that ah ha!-moment in hindsight. Please note, I wasn’t the kind of woman who slept around, but I do feel that for some women in their desire to be loved and wanted by a man often thinks sex is the solution, when all he wants is sex and nothing, absolutely nothing more. #loveyourself #don'tsettle My First Time in St. Thomas My name is Jewel Davis and I would like to share my first time visiting St. Thomas. It is a beautiful Caribbean Island in the US. Virgin Islands. The first time I went was ten years ago-around 2005. I stayed with my college buddy, Janeesa. At the time she had a vacation home high up in the mountains. Getting up to her 3 bedroom, island home was an adventure in-and-of itself. Imagine travelling dark, bumpy roads with no railings, at night? Yes, it was scary and though I held on for dear life as we drove up the mountains in a jeep-it was an amazing experience. I could have stayed at a resort in a heavily populated tourist area but staying with someone who lived there makes for a more enjoyable, local experience. I’m a jogger, so jogging the hilly terrain presented a challenge-and I loved it. The local markets are nice, fresh fruit every day for my smoothies, conversing with the locals-very nice. Looking down from Janeesa’s balcony onto the Caribbean Sea at night, with the dark velvety blue sky, a white full moon shining light down below on the sea created a sparkling, magical effect. No picture taken could capture that view. It is a must see for yourself experience. The food is delicious-and anybody that knows me, know that any food that I didn’t have to make is delicious. If you can ask a local the best foods to try, that’s a big plus. I found myself over indulging on pate’s, jerk chicken and red beans and rice. You have to try the conch fritters, with a side of slaw. Omg. The conch chowder is pretty darn good as well. Tropical drinks are a must as well-my favorite, banana/pineapple colada’s. Other popular drinks Rum of course, it’s one of their staples Bushwacker Painkiller The nightlife isn’t any different from any other night on the town like in bigger cities. It’s not my scene anymore-but asking locals of the best ones to go to is helpful. The locals are friendly and helpful-be sure to ask them where the best beaches are that are less tourist-y and beach comb for pretty shells to take home. Also, little lizards and iguana’s are everywhere. Jewel Davis, owner of EnNaptured. Natural hair guru and fitness junkie.
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romance, love affair, affair; engagement Hello everyone, I know it’s been a minute since I have posted something. I went to a co-worker the other day and asked her for some subject matter to post about. She is a single woman, and this question was posed by her. But I also see this question asked online as well. The reason why is pretty easy to answer in my opinion. However, a social media site I like to visit, the opinion as to why they (men) don’t court anymore varies. I’m thinking there is a generational gap as to why there is a disparity in opinions. I am 40-plus and many of the women who have had a different opinion from me are in their 20s (and that is ok, we all have different life experiences) that said (please note-these are my personal opinions) Women are not making being courted properly a priority anymore. I’m talking the initial dating process, when a man takes a woman out to a movie, dinner, hand holding in the park—Or whatever the couple’s interests are. But crashing at her place not making the effort to dress up and take her out or only calling a woman at night is not courtship. It’s laziness on both the man’s and the woman’s part. Particularly if a woman wants to move towards marriage and not a forever girlfriend) If a woman wants a man to court her, she needs to set that standard. If a man is unwilling to rise to that standard, he is not the one. Men know they don’t have to put an effort into courting a woman anymore. More and more women are settling for less than true courtship. A lot of women and men are defining lust as a relationship. Many are jumping feet first into sexual relationships without a mutual agreement on what they are. Are we exclusive?-working towards eventual marriage? Friends with benefits, Booty call, Casual dating, I don’t know how to define us, We’re friends-but someone wants more etc etc etc. A real courtship needs to be defined early on. If you (the woman) has questions about where you stand with the man you are with, that may be a red flag. A lot of men are getting the benefits of a relationship with minimal effort on their end. Very minimal. Men are used to not having to step up to the plate because they are not being challenged to. Women are getting weary of men not stepping up to the plate-but many women are also settling-which perpetuates this dilemma. Some men are simply lip service and no actions lining up with what they are telling the women they are with. Men and women are often on a different page when it comes to sex and love. We as women tend to blur the lines of sex and love-which can lead to confusion. There was a saying years ago (it’s not verbatim-I don’t remember who said it) but Men use words of love to get sex and women give sex to get love. Ladies, there really are red flags when we first meet a man. Some women say they were blind-sided by a man after crap hit the fan. Not true, for the most part, we ignore signs slapping us right in the face. And the reasons for ignoring those signs vary by woman. We know we have men who don’t try to court a woman—but then we have men who won’t try because they think women are asking for too much. Movie, dinner, roses and he wants to know what is he getting out of the the deal before he spends his money (this is what I’ve heard men say). Sex is usually the preferred trade-off. And sex without true commitment presents a different challenge-which takes me back to men and women being on different pages when it comes to sex and love. I think this one is a biggie. A lot of men are not seeing examples of courtship. Their own father may be missing in action; their mother may have juggled several boyfriends during his formative years. Courtship to a man, if it’s even on his radar differs from courtship from a woman’s POV. I think in our parents/grandparents day-men and women were a little more on the same page when it came to the purpose of courtship-and that was to get married. But somewhere we lost the purpose as more and more women are settling for Mr. Right Now, having children with Mr. Right Now, moving in with Mr. Right Now hoping Mr. Right Now will turn into Mr. Husband, but Mr. Right Now isn’t interested in being Mr. Husband. Someone might ask me; well what is your solution to getting a man to court you. You know, I am a traditional minded woman, and what worked for me-probably wouldn’t work for the masses because relationships are so discombobulated these days. But I will say for women who want to be courted, make it your standard and DON’T waver from that. It won’t be an easy road, because so many women are settling and men tend to gravitate to that. **Please note~ this is not about rushing people into marriage. Nor is it about women gold-digging (that's another misconception about my post) But to give food for thought during the dating/courtship process** Author of A Love Worth Waiting For book 1 Destinee Series Two Become One book 2 Destinee Series Born Out of Lust book 3 Destinee Series A Johnson Family Saga—Love That Transcends All (the Destinee complete series 1-3) Jewel—A Chance at Love Under The Irish Moon The Millionaire—Diamonds are Forever Sisters Can We Talk? What Our Mothers Didn’t Tell Us A Kiss at Christmas coming November 2017 |